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Eric Trules's avatar

This piece reminds me of my notorious career as an improvising professional clown all over the world. Where I gleefully intruded into people’s private worlds from outside and tried to touch their humanity and senses of humor. It was quite a life being an outlaw clown, trying to touch and connect people… but not “strange” at all .🤣❤️

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Geraldine A. V. Hughes's avatar

Charlie Chaplin

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Patris's avatar

Paradise.

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Tommy Swerdlow's avatar

A version

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Alexandra Youmans's avatar

I just love that title!

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Tommy Swerdlow's avatar

Always good to steal and make it your own at the same time.

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Alexandra Youmans's avatar

Haha exactly. I remember seeing that movie in Paris: L'insoutenable legerete de l'etre. I always thought the definition of "insoutenable" as "unsustainable" changed things a bit.

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Eric Trules's avatar

I enjoyed your Narcissi post this morning, but I felt too much self-guilt to leave a comment. Lol.

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Alexandra Youmans's avatar

Oh no lol

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Renee Missel's avatar

Beautiful essay.Great title. I talk to strangers everywhere also. I enjoy that anonymous contact that lasts such a short time. It warms the heart and the soul. Thanks, Tommy.

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Tommy Swerdlow's avatar

Mine too. it's a soul warmer

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Roy Strassman's avatar

I love talking with strangers, too. Maybe a New York thing?

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Tommy Swerdlow's avatar

Might be.

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Anna Schott's avatar

There is nothing like the gentle and intelligent expression of an old vaquero.

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Tommy Swerdlow's avatar

So true. Violin player eyes, and I'm not saying that because I know my audience

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Reflections's avatar

Cool

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Geraldine A. V. Hughes's avatar

While reading THE BEARABLE LIGHTNESS OF STRANGERS I thought wow, it has a stellar Vaudevillian theme and would make a super short film, given the times, Vaudeville humor is needed.

The 21st. Century is ripe for a Vaudevillian revamp and who is better than you, I don’t know! Peace, love and Vaudeville, LG

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Márcia Camará's avatar

Strangers are always a possibility of a contrast, they are your new chance to no repeat your worn-out repertoire. Maybe in the next encounter, if you're luck enough, you'll be the stranger to yourself. Another great piece.

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steven germain's avatar

FWIW, I think them dice you roll with strangers are your version of playing craps against apathy because you know that strangers are "every bit as real as you are." (I am paraphrasing what Jonathan Franzen said about his friend, David Foster Wallace). Franzen called DFW's dice, "Molotov cocktails of bottomless empathy".

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Tommy Swerdlow's avatar

Old Franzen always showing off.

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Kimberly Warner's avatar

Brilliant piece! 🙏🙏🙏“Strangers owe us nothing, and when we engage with them, the slate is clean, or even better, there is no slate, just me in my human suit and them in theirs, both of us wandering through the mystery, taking the time to acknowledge each other, and say, "Yeah, me too."

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Martin Mc Carthy's avatar

I remember that movie 'The Unbearable Lightness of Being'. So I presumed, when I saw the title of this piece, that you were playing with that idea, and speaking instead of a lightness that (rather paradoxically)binds us more fully to the world.

And I was right! The whole article is about being nice and friendly and intimate with people - especially complete strangers. Of course, you'll never make it to the White House with that attitude!

By the way, I wouldn't mind going 'elbow to elbow with a gold-toothed senora'. Well, at least, for an intimate minute or two. Very enjoyable article, Tommy!

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